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First, please forgive me for taking so long to respond to this. I have actually spent the last two days typing my answer. Took me longer then I wanted it to, but I just really felt the need to be thorough. I hate MD's. So, if you don't mind my saying so, ditch what that guy told you. I'm going to give you real life.
I answered part of your post below in red and then continued on in black from there. I hope it's not too confusing.
Please help me. My doctor is trying to help us keep from developing a new allergy or sensitivity -it would seem- by telling us not to eat anything 
. I'm kidding. My husband was allergic to 93 of the 96 foods tested for on the ELISA test. Not just "we can rotate them" allergic. I mean, you'd better not touch those allergic. The solution was to feed him those things which he did not show a clear physical reaction to and rotate as best we could. So we eliminated dairy, gluten, eggs, nightshades and lily family. Everything else he eats unless he reacts. Then we add it to the list of avoids. We've been at this over a year and his gut IS healing with this method. We do the lilies quite easily now. If you must do this, then do it. Only remove those things they clearly react to.
I may not eat any grain or grass family foods for at least 6 months, soy only 1-2 times a week, no nuts, and all of my first son's allergens only once per week (eggs, nightshades, lilly...), rotating legumes and seeds like sesame and sunflower every 3 days and alternating days for the pseudocereals. All this would drive a sane person crazy. 
We must find you a new way. We will - but I need more info first.
I need protein, I need sanity, and more than all of that- my family loves me and really needs me. I can't afford grass fed meat, or organic everything.
I just feel so disheartened. I know God has already made a way to deal with this, and I just need to wait for Him to reveal it, but I am hurting and I'm not there for my family, I am emotionally consumed with the memory, a bit of fear, anxiety, and just wondering what to make for dinner and how to eat and how to feed all of us, and I'm tired. I can relate. But God does have a way. And you will all be better for it and you work through it. I'll do my best to help you do that.
I greatly dislike eating quinoa. We aren't fond of quinoa either and actually can't eat much of it because of allergies in that family. However, cooking it with chicken broth gives it good flavor and adding it to soups/stews works very well also. It hides it that way and there really is no flavor. Just the nutrition.
I'm not ungrateful, I'm just tired. I'm having a big weak moment, please know that I am not complaining so much as venting to a crowd that has been there- no one around me has, they don't get it, and they come at me in the only way they know how-with pity, and I don't want or need pity. Ideas, a hug, direction, empathy, prayer and companionship yes, but not pity. <HUGS>
Then there's the other crowd that is full of nutritional shouldn'ts and that's all well and good for a person who has the freedom to make that choice, but has no limitations other than their ideas about proper nutrition and good stewardship. I had to accept that while certain foods were not ones I like to serve, I needed to in order for all of us to survive. Pork being the biggie. I get it from a farm and yes, I use bacon and sausage. Sometimes nitrate free if I'm in a moment of guilt. Otherwise, I asked God to bless it, help us to heal so we can skip it in the future, and we eat it. This is what you will have to do in order to heal. Some day, you may not have to. Until then, you ask God to protect from other unsightly things due to that food. Some may disagree with this, but they have not sat where we do.
Where do I go? What do we eat? I'll cover this below.
I just want to be me and this is silly; this should not be consuming me like this. It's only food, but my heart seems to just feel this like a hammer. I do remember feeling this way. Somehow, God brought resolution and peace and simplicity.
I'm looking for support and ideas. I'll do my best.
Okay, to finish this out with more detail. I'm going to try and go down this list of foods to give you as clear an idea of what I mean to. If I get confusing, holler at me. Essentially, you need to do a meat and fruits/veggies diet. You won't have a lot of grains, period. This works really really well and is very easy to do. If you start your 24hr period and go from lunch time to lunch time, then technically that is one day. So having dinner leftovers for lunch works very well without messing up a "4 day rotation."
1. Grass family - eliminate the gluten. The easiest way to do this is to just eliminate bread and pasta. We do like the Pamela's bread mixes and I use them weekly. We use bread only for toast and no other purpose. It is very filling. We have survived without it. You will to. There are some other options. Rice cakes work well for peanut butter and jelly, meat and mustard, etc. If you want noodles for something, rice noodles will take on any flavor you cook them with so you can still make noodle and veggie casseroles, etc. I just don't use them often. They can be bought with the oriental foods.
2. No one should be eating soy anyway. I don't worry about soy lecithin, ever. But added soy to foods we just don't do. If they get it once in awhile when you go out to eat, then so be it. Bless your food and eat it. Otherwise, you shouldn't be eating soy anything. This really isn't hard to do as soy is mostly added to processed foods and if you're eating a basically homemade diet, then it won't matter.
3. Are nuts a high allergen?
4. Use eggs only for cooking, not eating. Even if it's more then once per week. When I think of how I cook, I generally only use eggs twice a week for dishes anyway. My bread has two eggs but I don't even count it because how much egg are they getting in a slice of bread? If these allergies are caused by vaccines then forget about it. The other option is to use duck eggs for cooking and let them have chicken eggs for a saturday AM breakfast or something. Flax and water also works well for eggs in quick breads and pancakes.
5. Do you eat a lot of beans, seeds and sunflower? We have a bean and rice dish once a week for dinner and almost never use the others. If that's what you do then don't give them the other stuff. It'll heal the allergy quicker. Other then sunflower seeds (which they can live without) don't use sunflower oil. If something has a small amount in it (like processed food) don't worry about it. There are lots of different beans, was there allergy to ALL of them?
Obviously, I do not know how high any of these allergies are. It would help to know. It seems from what you wrote that gluten is the biggest issue and the others are smaller allergies because he says you can rotate them. [/color]
Okay - here's the general way I do my meals. First, we all eat the same thing. Period. Momma cannot cook two separate meals for every meal.
Meats: chicken, fish (fresh caught cod or salmon only), bean and rice dish once per week, buffalo, pork, beef (I have to cook something else for DS, he's allergic to beef), deer, elk, antelope (whatever I can get my hands on free). When I use beef, I just give a leftover meat to my DS.
WR from this forum suggested checking with a place that processes wild game to see if they have any someone didn’t pick up. Well, the last time I went to buy buffalo from my butcher guy he had 7 deer roasts that he gave me that someone didn’t pick up. This is one way to really help with rotating meats. I have found that wild game roasts and stew meat taste totally like regular meat and not gamey when made into soups/stews. So for added rotation/variety you might consider this.
As far as doing this cost effectively – when you don’t buy bread or lots of GF stuff it is actually quite cost effective to do meat and veggies/fruit. During the summer my stuff is obviously very fresh (we also grow a lot of our own) so my dinner veggies are both fresh. During the winter I use what I have frozen and the salads. I do not make extravagant salads. We’re talking basic lettuce blends and shredded carrots. My DS is allergic to lots of the veggies someone would put in a salad. We do use a GF dressing which is more expensive but I get it from Azure which makes it very cost effective.
I made my own flour blend from a recipe a friend gave me so I buy my GF flours in bulk from Azure (or in single packages from them depending on how much of that flour I use). Then blend them altogether and use that to make pancakes or when I make quick breads/etc. This is cost effective and easy to do.
If you can’t afford organic everything, then focus as much as you can on getting hormone and antibiotic free meats (even if it’s not labeled “organic”) and just really clean your fruits and veggies. Thank God for it and eat. Let God do the rest. I have found that getting my meat directly from farmers is actually cheaper. While it’s not labeled “organic” they don’t do hormones or antibiotics. One does use soy but I just don’t worry about it. I can’t. I am particular about getting my pork directly from the farms because of it’s general not necessarily healthy nature anyway. I have checked out what she feeds them, how she treats them, etc. and am satisfied it’s still way better then anything I could get in a store. The only exception to this is my bacon and sausage. I get what’s on sale and get nitrate free when I can. But 7 times out of 10, it's got nitrates.
If you can grow a garden, freezing your veggies/fruits is a good way to have healthy stuff all year. I only can peaches and pears because of the nutrition factor. I don’t blanch anything before I freeze it. No need to and it holds in the nutrition.
We do soup/stew at least 1-2 times per week which adds both nutrition (bone broth from chicken/buffalo) and stretches the food. Gives us lunch for the next few days too. J
As far as the lily family foods, we all showed allergic to those as well. What I have found is we avoid the asparagus but we can use dried onions and garlic for cooking for flavor. If you think about the drying process, it removes the liquid enzyme in the food which is what causes the reaction. Since it gets rehydrated in our cooking with water/fat then you don’t have the enzyme activity to create a reaction. I have found we are fine with leeks and green onion as well (fresh/frozen, not dried). Unless you see a clear, outward reaction to these foods, don’t worry too much about avoiding them. Use them only in cooking and not fresh (unless you're throwing them in fresh to be cooked).
Here is an example of what a week of dinners looks like at my house:
Mon: roast/carrots and a salad
Tue: chicken, rice, salad/veggie (if no rice, two veggies)
Wed: fish/sweet potato fries, salad
Thur: beef/buffalo meatloaf and 2 veggies
Fri: using juice from Monday’s roast, add wild game or other stew meat, frozen veggies (or fresh if available), quinoa or rice. Make a good thick stew and serve with either GF dumplings (not a favorite in my house) or GF toast
Sat: beans and rice cooked with ham hocks; made thick as well
Sun: Spaghetti squash with cooked, sliced chicken pieces, mixed with 1 bottle GF Italian dressing and sea salt.
We don’t do dinner Sunday night because of a late lunch after church. However, the fam usually enjoys the beans and rice or stew from the day before for an evening “snack.”
I mix and vary the above menu. Sometimes we’ll have rice with the fish instead of the chicken, etc.
Lunches are usually left overs from the night before so I make sure I cook enough to have that on hand. It doesn’t always happen, but for the most part I’m able to make it happen.
Breakfasts almost always are some form of sausage/bacon, GF toast or muffins, pancakes and fruit I’ve canned or fresh during the summer.
That is the food portion. The next part is what can you supplement to make their bodies less reactive to foods? #1 is quercetin. You can buy it here
http://www.integrativepsychiatry.net/quercetin_ascorbate_powder_designs_for_health.html for pretty close to what we pay for ours. We get 150gms for $20 from our ND. It is ½ tsp. in one tbls of applesauce at every meal for the little guys with food allergies. This will help their bodies not react as bad or not at all to their lower allergens. It helps the inflamed immune system to calm down, thus helping to heal the allergies. The obvious second thing is a good probiotic. If they have not been treated for gut pathogenic bacterias then you may want to do one 30 day round of something to do that – just in case an excess of bad bacteria is causing an issue. And then finally, a digestive enzyme is an absolute must. One containing ox bile and no dairy or gluten would be very important. There is a thread on here about enzymes that has several listed that are good. In the end, the only thing they should be taking is quercetin, probiotic and digestive enzymes. This will also help to heal their gut as quickly as possible. We are over a year into this and are basically down to quercetin once a day, probiotic daily and enzymes only for my worst two. So healing DOES come. Take heart and be encouraged. God will give you the strength and energy to do this. I do think one bare minimum is that everyone eats the same. Period. Besides, if your kids have allergies, they got them from you and hub – sooooooo……….
I’m not sure if this has helped at all, but I hope it has. Please feel free to ask whatever questions you need to. I’ll do my best.
Blessings!
patti
edited to correct buffalo to "deer" in one sentence
