Sorry this is a bit long, I just wanted to get the whole story...
I would really value some opinions on pediatrians these days. I am a first time mom. I have been taking my one year old son to a practice for a year. I seemed to have a bad experience from the get go. While in the hospital after giving birth, the Dr. who looked at him there was indignant with me for not staying 48hrs, since I was only planning to stay 24 hrs. We had quite a discussion about that, and I couldn't believe he was arguing with about it so closely after I gave birth and could bearly think. He said so many things can go wrong with babies in the first 48hrs blah blah blah... (even though my son was completely healthy) Finally he let me go if I promised to have my son seen in his future Dr.'s office the following day. Well we ended up waiting 2 days because there was a wind storm and the Dr. office didn't have power, but my son was fine.
So fast forward, we don't have insurance, we have a medical sharing plan which discounts well baby visits but does not cover them, so they still end up being quite expensive. I explained this to his doc and asked if there was any way we could combine some of his (every 2 month) appointments he was supposed to have because of that. That wasn't an option. So I asked the Dr. at his next visit what all he would be checking on my son at his next visit and being a registered nurse myself, I performed the check up myself at home with some help in measuring him from a friend. He checked out fine and I didn't take him in. I also had decided to wait until 6 months to start vaccinations, that apparently wasn't ok either, even though I thought I had told the Dr. I was going to do that. I started getting weekly calls from the office asking us to get his vaccinations, call them when we did and schedule his next appointment. I had skipped his 6 month appt. and brought him in for his eight month. The Dr. said he was a bit behind on his height and to bring him in to re-check in 1 to 2 months. I told him my husband is Asian and neither of us are above 5' 8". He still wanted to see him, I thought it could wait till I brought him in at a year. My son ended up getting a virus shortly before he turned 11 months. I called the nurse to see if there was anything I could do for his rash, she told me I could give him some benadryl (his fever had been gone for 2 days) she asked me if I felt comfortable just watching him and not bringing him in, I said yes. 2 hours later she called back to say the Dr. had found my message and wanted me to come in "to make sure it wasn't something else". I didn't really want to bring him in, I felt it was unnecessary but I thought better safe than sorry, so I did. Just as I thought they said a virus and sent him home. I had them re-check his height at that time as well (which was fine, right back where it was supposed to be). Then a couple weeks later I got a letter saying I was kicked out of their practice for non-compliance and not following up with appointments.
I just want to know, is this nazi pediatrcian practice common. How can I find a good Dr. who I can trust and trusts me? Am I crazy not to just do whatever they say? It seems like if you think for yourself that is unacceptable.