I am so sorry that these doctors have tried to force you to succumb to their views by using intimidation, fear, lies, and shunning. I have a pediatricians office here that is very laid back, punctual, and genuinely friendly. We are never rushed. They come in and pray with us and play and discuss everything. They always recommend herbs and homeo treatments first. They are slow to prescribe drugs of any kind, particularly antibiotics.
My older son went in with RSV, pneumonia, and an ear infection and their advice was for me to bring him in that morning and we talked via telephone that afternoon and twice every day (even on Sat. and Sun.) for a week. No meds. Ear infection ran it's course. We only gave him Tylenol and honestly, I would have absolutely given him antibiotics had she prescribed them. He was down and out for a month. Then it was over. He is fine.
Our RN/lactation consultant is a retired mom who LOVES kids. When I told her I would immunize on my schedule and give vaccinations one at the time, she said she didn't care if I vaccinated at all. She was glad I was breastfeeding and feeding them such a good diet. Because I have sons, however, she did recommend the Rubella shot because there is a risk of sterility. And she told me the pros and cons (including contracting Hep B from saliva) of all the shots. No pressure. And they don't offer the kids CANDY!
Is it possible to recommend specific practices? If anyone lives in the Raleigh, NC area, you can send me a personal e-mail and I'll tell you who our beloved RN is.